New Ostomate Corner

by Mark Shaffer, Metro Denver
Via Hemet-San Jacinto, CA Evansville Ostomy Newsletter

At a recent chapter meeting, a subject came up that I found intriguing. One of the participants in the rap session stated that he found himself depressed and withdrawn even though it has been a year since his surgery. He wondered how long he could expect that feeling to last and, I think, whether it would go on for the rest of his life.

Some ostomates adjust almost immediately. These folks see an ostomy as a cure for an illness that threatened their lives or restricted their activities.

Others take a few months, generally feeling better about the situation as soon as they master the fine art of pouch changing and maintenance.

For many, ostomy surgery begins a process that appears, and is, very close to the grieving process, and like any grieving process, the amount of time needed to feel emotionally whole again will vary. It took me almost two years following my surgery before I felt like I had regained my former personality and was ready to move on with my life.

So there is no magic amount of time needed to adjust to your new ostomy. Allow yourself the time you need and realize that the feelings of depression and isoation will eventually go away.

If the depression is severe, dont be afraid to seek professional help.

If your isolation is caused by a lack of confidence in your appliance, seek help from an ET nurse*.

If your appliance is working fine but you still feel separated from others, seek help from other ostomates. Go to a meeting** and meet others in the same situation.

If you dont already have one, call your local chapter*** and get an ostomy visitor who can talk to you about how they managed their post-operative emotions.

But above all, give yourself time to adjust.

* ET Nurse is an Enterostomal Therapist, or a specialist trained in the care of individuals with stomas. Also called "WOCN" or a Wound, Ostomy and Continence Nurse.

** The United Ostomy Associations of America (UOAA), has a WEBSITE where you can find a local chapter and their regular meeting dates and times.

*** Most local UOAA chapters offer monthly meetings, visitation programs and other support methods to local ostomates. Click HERE to find your local UOAA support group.